The number one skill that you truly need if you want to succeed with women more often than not is a skill that not everyone is born with, but rather a skill that can be developed over time with practice and effort. I’m assuming you’re reading this blog post because you truly want to improve the quality of your relationships.

The one thing you need to better your relationship is EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE.

Number one, why a lot of people don’t seem to have emotional intelligence and number two, I’ll give you five reasons why emotional intelligence is the number one skill that you need today.

What is emotional intelligence?

Emotional intelligence refers to the ability to recognize, the ability to understand, and manage one’s own emotions, as well as the emotions of others. It involves being able to use emotional information to guide thought and behavior and to effectively navigate social situations. If emotional intelligence is so important, why don’t a lot ofWell for a variety of reasons including,

Some reasons why people don’t have emotional intelligence

(1) Lack Of Awareness – Some people simply may not be aware of how important it actually is, or the impact that emotions can have on their lives and relationships.

(2) Upbringing – Emotional intelligence is often developed in children through positive role models, healthy communication, and emotional support from parents and caregivers. If someone didn’t experience that kind of upbringing, they may struggle with emotional intelligence later in life.

(3) Trauma – Experiencing trauma such as abuse or neglect can impact a person’s emotional intelligence. They may struggle with regulating their own emotions or understanding the emotions of others.

(4) Mental health issues – Some mental health conditions such as depression or anxiety can affect a person’s emotional intelligence. They may struggle with recognizing or managing their own emotions or having difficulty empathizing with others.

(5) Cultural factors – Different cultures place varying levels of emphasis on emotional expression and communication.

(6) Lack of practice – Like any skill, emotional intelligence requires practice and effort to develop. If someone has had no opportunities to practice emotional intelligence skills, they’ll obviously struggle.

5 reasons you need to develop your emotional intelligence skill

Let’s highlight reasons why emotional intelligence is the number one skill man needs to develop.

(1) Self-awareness – A person who’s emotionally intelligent has a good understanding of their own emotions, their strengths, and their weaknesses. They’ve literally done what we call in business a SWOT analysis. The importance of knowing your strengths and your weaknesses is to help you identify and take advantage of opportunities whenever you identify them and most importantly quickly eliminate threats to your person. When it comes to relationships, knowing your strengths can make you a force to reckon with. Knowing your weaknesses will inform you of the times that you need to take a step back, assess situations, speak less, and listen more.

(2) Empathy – Emotionally intelligent people are able to put themselves in someone else’s shoes and understand how they are feeling. They can read non-verbal cues and listen actively to what others are saying. They are ready to offer their partner who’s going through a difficult time, assistance, a listening ear, or words of encouragement when they need it the most. They would be less selfish and more selfless, and they will quickly realize that it’s not about them but it’s about us. When faced with new challenges their first reaction is not to belittle the situation but rather to understand where their partner is coming from. Very few people succeed at doing this and doing it well.

(3) Self-regulation – Emotionally intelligent people are able to manage their own emotions in a healthy and productive way. Knowing how to manage your emotions and relationships could be the difference between having a healthy, loving, respectful relationship and one that is toxic. People who tend to lack self-regulation become paranoid when new people enter the circle or when their partner begins to court different and new relationships. Jealousy is a key characteristic of lack of self-regulation, even though a healthy amount of jealousy is good for every relationship, things can quickly get out of hand if not managed properly. When faced with a difficult situation, someone who has their self-regulation in check will take a deep breath, count to 10 for instance, before responding to a frustrating situation as opposed to just lashing out in anger.

(4) Social skills – People with emotional intelligence are skilled in building relationships and navigating social situations. They’re good at communicating effectively, resolving conflicts, collaborating with others, navigating family politics, and even work politics. People with good social skills are often seen as leaders and are more likely to be successful in their relationships. Having good social skills can help you avoid social isolation, which can have negative effects on your mental health. For example, instead of being the odd one out to the party because you refuse to engage with others and then get jealous because your partner is overly out there, if you have good social skills you make it a point to network, to mingle, and meet new people as well, as opposed to the alternative of giving yourself grief or giving your partner grief on ignoring you throughout the party. I have a video that addresses the top habits you need to improve your social skills on my youtube channel Jessica OS, you can watch it here

(5) Motivation – Emotional intelligent people are often highly motivated to achieve their goals. They’re able to use their emotions to drive them forward. In the world we find ourselves in today, nobody wants a man who lacks ambition and drive. One of the biggest turn-offs is when a man doesn’t seem to know what he wants to do. Motivation is the one thing that can help you develop new skills, and perceive new interests. When you’re motivated, you’re more likely to challenge yourself and take on new experiences that can lead to personal growth and self-improvement. Motivation will improve performance in various aspects of your life including relationships, academics, work, and more. When you’re motivated, you’re more likely to put in the effort you need to achieve success. A motivated person will use the disappointment that they feel after a setback as motivation to work harder toward their goal, as opposed to putting themselves down and wallowing in self-pity.

Final thoughts.

I’m sure you can quickly see how emotional intelligence is a trait that can put you far ahead of others, not only in your romantic relationships but also helps you effectively communicate with people, because people always understand your well-thought-out intentions more often than not. Emotional intelligence will also help you develop resilience and bounce back from setbacks and overcome obstacles. Emotional intelligence will help you pursue meaningful goals, rather than going through the motions or following societal expectations. Having emotional intelligence will help you understand and manage your emotions better. If you have emotional intelligence you’re a winner in so many situations.